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The DISCOVERY Zone
What are you still discovering about yourself? I know I’m dating myself, but if you were a kid near Brooklyn, New York, in the ’90s, there was this place called Discovery Zone. Man, did I get excited when I knew we were going there. Similar to Chuck E. Cheese, but somehow the anticipation of walking through the mall to get there added a level of uncovering fun that I loved. I remember one day my mother left me with a group for a birthday party. She left me fresh and cute like
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May 314 min read


Mothering Without a Mother
After the first appointment, on the ride home, everything felt new. The first steps. The first outfit with a tiny headband. The first giggle. The first words. Each moment felt like something I needed to share. So naturally, I would reach for my phone—ready to call, to text, to say, “You wouldn’t believe what Aria just did.” But then… I would freeze. My hand would pause mid-air, and reality would settle in. My mind was playing tricks on me. Somewhere deep inside, I had always
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Apr 303 min read


Grief Isn’t Equal to a Number
I used to think grief had a timeline. Not in an exact, mapped-out way—but I believed that with time, things would either get better… or at least lighter. That healing would move forward in some kind of steady direction. But this year taught me something different. Grief doesn’t move in a straight line. It loops. It dips. It surprises you. And sometimes… it brings you right back. This March brought me right back. I walked into it feeling like I had grown. Like I had learned ho
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Mar 313 min read


The intersection
Ever find yourself stopped in the middle of an intersection? That moment when great opportunity, nerve-racking possibilities, life and death all crowd into a single breath—where one step in any direction could change everything. And suddenly you’re left asking yourself: What do I do next? Which direction do I move? For me, when I hear the word INTERSECTION, I think of the one that drastically changed my life—the intersection where an accident took place and I lost my one and
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Feb 182 min read


Do it together
Do It Together I’ve been so happy to spend this holiday break at home with my family. It’s so different from the typical work hustle. Lately, something has felt especially wrenching as a working mom. I find myself asking a question I didn’t fully anticipate before motherhood: How on earth do I sustain the workflow and quality of work I had before becoming a mom—while also being fully present for all the new milestones in my daughter’s life? It’s only the 31st and while I don'
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Dec 31, 20254 min read


When the leaves fall...
Lately, I’ve been thinking about friendships and family the way I think about the fall season. I never expected the colors to change. Everything was beautiful—steady, familiar, full of life—and I thought it would always stay that way. But somewhere along the way, the season shifted. People started slipping away—some by choice, some by circumstance—and I found myself standing in the quiet, wondering what happened. Did I say something? Was it within my control? How did we go fr
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Nov 30, 20252 min read


Ever turn pain into purpose?
I often hear people say that grief is all the bottled-up LOVE you never got to pour out. With so much love still inside, I sometimes feel it overflowing with NoWhEre to go. One safe place I’ve found to release it is by doing the very things my mother loved and pouring myself into them when possible. This September, my brother, sister, and I chose to honor her in that way. Each year, my mother devoted herself to SERVING through her church community, planning for children to h
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Sep 4, 20251 min read


Why Are You Here?
Imagine this: You walk into a room—something like a conference room—and the second you open the door, everything STOPS. The side...
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Jul 30, 20253 min read


June Body
With the heat rushing in, and shorts, bathing suits, and tank tops making their way out of the closet, June has me thinking about my body...
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Jun 30, 20253 min read


Lioness Within Me
April is here— or actually, it was . Now it’s May, and with the last two months feeling like a rollercoaster ride, I didn’t get to post...
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May 23, 20253 min read


Light & Legacy That Speaks
March feels a little different. If you’ve been following my journey, you know that each month, I try to reflect, share, and bring light...
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Mar 30, 20251 min read


Purple February
Why February is now my PURPLE month... When I think of February, shades of RED and PINK immediately come to mind. That may be the...
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Feb 18, 20254 min read


Hey you. Yeah, you… What’s your name?
Why I Named My Blog Just Gesai Let’s take a deep breath and dive into this meaningful conversation about names. For me, the journey to...
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Jan 26, 20254 min read


Holiday Pieces
Embracing the Cracks that Light our Path This time of year reminds me of decorating my Christmas tree at home as a young teenager. It...
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Dec 26, 20243 min read


November's Warmth, Traditions, and Finding New Routines
November has always been one of my favorite months, filled with warm colors like oranges and browns , cozy sweaters , and the...
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Nov 15, 20243 min read


Happy New Year in September! A Time to Reflect, Realign, and Reset Goals
As an educator, September has always held a special significance for me. While many see January as the start of a new year, for those of...
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Sep 29, 20243 min read


It's July!!! Happy Birthday to Us
FUN FACT Did you know that a woman can carry three generations within her? Imagine this: you were in your mother’s womb, when she was...
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Sep 1, 20243 min read
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